The first lesson of the New Consciousness Course that I teach is about the importance of being yourself, not what others want or expect you to be. It can be uncomfortable to speak honestly about how you feel, to say no rather than agreeing all the time, and to appear and behave in accordance with the calling of your soul not your societal norm: by so doing you are honouring yourself and, through your transparency, showing others about a different way to be.
I teach too about self-observation and through it dealing with the challenges of the mind and the emotions, which are the principal inhibitors of your freedom to be yourself. It can take lifetimes of effort to reach that point of care-lessness, and you may be one of many souls on Earth on the brink of completion now. It can come about, however, that your focus and well-intentioned efforts result more in self-absorption than soul growth, almost as if you get caught up in the idea of your spiritual evolution and what to do about it without seeing when you have reached the point of balance between your soul and your personality, enabling you to look out rather than constantly looking in.
In time, you will find you do not think of yourself at all, except briefly and in terms of your human need, such as keeping warm if you have a cold and ensuring you have food to eat. You will be living and visible as your soul and the usual emotional and mental demands of being human will not exist; you will be the observer of the world, and not of yourself anymore, for that work will be done. This will be your true freedom.
Whatever it takes, learn to be who you are and to live your truth in its perfection and then, when it is engrained within you, forget about it and forget about yourself, in the knowledge that Spirit has taken over, and all is well.