As revelation and accusation was being made about well-known personalities such as William Roache, Rolf Harris, Max Clifford, and now Stuart Hall, as well of course as Jimmy Savile the history of whom precipitated the catalytic flood of complaints, I was told of two men, husbands of people I know slightly, who were addicted to sex in different ways – extreme pornography in one and constant infidelity in the other: In hearing of these sad episodes, I learned that for some people, crossing the line just once, perhaps out of curiosity, can create an obsessive dependency on the perversion just as one drink or drug can “hook” someone else with an addictive personality, and that just as a drug addict needs more and more to satisfy the craving, so it is with an addiction to a particular form of sex: it can grow out of all proportion to the point of being very dangerous as well as illegal.

The good news is that, if admitted and addressed in time, through counselling and therapy sex addicts can be assisted before their conduct gets badly out of control – but few men – and women too – are prepared to admit they have a problem. I am rather sorry that in all the media frenzy about what household names might have done in the past, little has been said about how they could have been deterred from their reported, or admitted, abuses at an early stage, and what people with a problem over misusing sex can do to help themselves. If Stuart Hall, for example, were to say not just that he was guilty, as he has done, but that he had been addicted and what this meant medically and socially, some might listen, think and act – before it got too late for them. It is one of the most serious human issues of our age, and too often the one least talked about.
Claire Montanaro is a spiritual teacher, channel and blogger. Loves nature and wildlife. Author of Spiritual Wisdom.]]>
I once had the dubious pleasure of being acquainted with a female clinical social worker who was also a sex addict and into Reiki. She never had the nerve to go to a therapist away from where she would be recognised by the clients she served. Although at least once she expressed an interest in me, I did not reciprocate.
Thank you. A difficult situation in so many ways.
Sexual addiction is also a dangerous problem just like any other addiction. The main reason for them not to attend treatment programs is the fear of getting stigmatized in public. But understand one thing, you are not only destroying yourself, but also tearing down the entire family.
I enjoyed your post. I couldn't agree more. When people are able to be accountable to their actions and get help eairly on with their sex addiction the consequeses are much less. It also helps in a bigger way when the own it publiclly and share that its real and that heling is possiple.
Thank you, Carl.I appreciate and agree with your comments.
Your welcome, and thank you for your post!