Being in balance means having a body that is as well as it can be, ideally free from pain or discomfort, with all your internal organs functioning well. Temporary illness like a cold or a frozen shoulder may be a reminder that something needs to be addressed, or may be part of a necessary healing process like a detoxification, or something forcing you to rest. The state of your physicality is a wonderful barometer for your state of being.
When you are in balance, your emotions are calm. You see your world with tolerant understanding and without judgment, and there is no anger or anxiety. Your mind, which is the trigger for emotion, is sometimes business-like, sometimes tranquil, but most often quiescent. There is no dwelling in the past or anticipating a future that may never happen, instead your awareness is of what is happening now, in the knowledge that it is your experiences that are your reality, not hearsay, speculation or fear.
When your soul is out of balance, you will know it through your humanity, for, when a soul is clothed in a body, its growth and wellbeing derive directly from how you express yourself as a human, on Earth; being spiritual is expressed through being human, and if you try to separate from your humanity, to try to live on higher planes, as many do, in the belief it will help your evolution, you are mistaken. It is essential to remember you are matter, to enjoy your life and to honour the body, the vehicle for your soul.
Your relationship with Earth is crucial, too. You are living on this beautiful planet for a reason, not just for the joy of being here and with a responsibility for her wellbeing, but because your being in balance depends fundamentally on how far you are connected with her. You cannot be truly in balance unless you have healed your separation from the world of nature. Sadly, the state of being separated is endemic, and many people do not understand that duality is about our relationship with the world around us, below and above us, for it is in nature that Spirit, on Earth, is embodied.
You do not have to live in in the countryside in order to regain or maintain your spiritual and human equilibrium, just connecting with nature in park or open space is enough, or even in your mind and your dreams. Intent and awareness of the importance both of being in balance and the importance of the world of nature for spiritual growth and human contentment are enough to manifest miracles of healing and of change: meditation, mindfulness, and an attitude of kindness above all are among a number of tools that will help you to be in balance.
So, do not strive to leave the third dimensional reality of being human too far or too soon, for by so doing you are not serving yourself nor your soul. You can reach the spiritual heights in your own back yard, and your re-balancing can be achieved very close to home.
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I thought this piece had particular resonance and wisdom ; it is the way that I try to live ; good to have it in writing !
Thank you, Ruth - I appreciate your comments! I am so glad you understand, and from experience.
G'day, Claire!
In addition to your comments, it is also wise to point out there is another part of being in balance: what Abraham Maslow (1943) referred to, in a psychological sense, as 'homeostasis', with self-actualisation/self-fulfilment being the goal.
In Maslow's (1943) scheme of things, there are several basic needs to be met for self-actualisation/self-fulfilment to occur: physiological (needs for shelter, food, etc.), safety, love and esteem needs. However, as personal experience and three members of the Canadian sex trade (Terri-Jean Bedford, Valerie Scott and Amy Lebovich) prove (Smith, in progress), a hierarchical conception of self-actualisation/self-fulfilment is inaccurate.
More accurate is it to think in quantum mechanical terms: as with electrons, for instance, you can say they orbit an atom's nucleus; but you cannot say with certainty their precise location at any given time. This is what Bohm and Hiley (1993, pp. 14-15) refer to as 'Heisenberg's microscope'. In the case of self-actualisation/self-fulfilment, this is the nucleus; and one's physiological, safety, love and esteem needs can be considered analogous to the electrons orbiting self-actualisation's nucleus.
Despite considerable adversity, the three Canadian sex workers mentioned above challenged three provisions of Canadian law pertaining to their trade (communicating for the purpose of prostitution, living off the avails of prostitution and maintaining a common bawdy house) all the way to the Supreme Court of Canada - and won. They basically sued the Crown in Canada because sex workers' physiological, safety and esteem needs in particular were not being met by the portions of the Prostitution Reference being disputed. While it may seem an oxymoron to consider altruistic behavior and the Canadian sex trade in the same breath, as it were, the fact of the matter is that there is a legal paper trail in the form of three court decisions documenting this behaviour.
In other words, for the plaintiffs as mentioned above, self-actualisation was at the nucleus of their actions, with their physiological, safety, love and esteem needs orbiting it as electrons orbit an atomic nucleus. Such is psychological homeostasis. Such is another aspect of being in balance to consider in terms of Spirit.
Best,
William
References
Bohm, D., & Hiley, B. J. (1993). The Undivided Universe: An Ontological Interpretation of Quantum Theory. New York: Routledge. This book is available on Amazon.com at: http://smile.amazon.com/Undivided-Universe-Ontological-Interpretation-Quantum/dp/041512185X/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1434039253&sr=8-1&keywords=bohm+hiley+the+undivided+universe.
Maslow, A. H. (1943). A theory of human motivation. Psychological Review, 50, 370-396. Retrieved from: http://psychclassics.yorku.ca/Maslow/motivation.htm.
Smith, W. L. (in progress). Baring All for Self-Fulfilment: Self-Actualisation in the Canadian Sex Trade.
Thank you for your very interesting comments, William, and for giving us an excellent and pertinent example of another aspect of keeping the mind (and then emotions) in balance.